Do a lot of people have their lives in order?

Do as many people have their lives in order as much as they say they do? This is an understandably vague and wide-ranging question. But, I consume a lot of media (perhaps too much to maintain sanity, I feel) and this media is inundated almost with people who have figured it out all out.

Is this true?

Podcasts of famous people who have well-thought-out daily routines (which always include meditation, yoga, ‘setting intentions’, and “really reflecting on what you want for the day”), YouTube gurus who peddle the notions of taking control and living your most fruitful life. But worst of all, ordinary people on social media who are seemingly so fucking in tune with the universe – they have their daily meditation practices and reflections on self, they often cleanse themselves (always internally) and go for long runs to really connect with nature.

Ah.

Who are these people, I ask. And are they for real? Because then, where does that leave the majority of people I know who lead messy, uncoordinated, barely-together lives? Where does that leave the likes of me, basically?!

I find messy people very easy to connect with. Perhaps it is a drawing-to of chaos. With people who are so very good at and with life, I feel a lack of connecting, which I sometimes hide with derision, jokes, a light mockery of “are you for real?”

My innate sense of superiority, led by my pre-frontal cortex probably, tells me that this is because I am right and life is messy, so these people are essentially charlatans. But there is a niggling though (awareness?) at the back of my brain that tells me that perhaps…this is man’s natural awe, or deference, towards ‘higher’ beings or beings that are seemingly higher. Hmm.

I do love messy people, though. And not just those who are physically messy, but the chaotic, the all-over-the-place, the erratic dreamers, the outspoken woman ranting against the world, the precocious Facebooker provoking the masses, the mother of 3 who loves her kids but hell she NEEDS her morning coffee to have an extra shot of whiskey to get through the day. I love these people, they are my messy, wonderful tribe.